Meet Pamela Miyamoto. Pam is 22 years old and lives in Utah. Pam is happily married to her husband Jared. She enjoys playing with her dogs, date night, going to the spa, and traveling. I met Pam in design school. I remember she had fire red hair and such a big heart. One of my favorite things about Pam was that she treated everyone with kindness. She was always willing to be friends with everyone regardless of age, background, clothing, or any other differentiating characteristic. Pam has a beautiful heart and a smile for everyone.
President Thomas S. Monson said, “Of this be sure, you do not find the happy life, you make it.” What a powerful statement and he’s right! I know Heavenly Father wants us to be happy here on earth despite the troubles of the world, despite the challenges we come to find. Our attitude can make a difference in our lives. I believe that when we are happy, we make better choices, we feel healthy and energized, and we wish good for other people.
A good example of happiness is my little brother Ferny. He has Down Syndrome. My little Ferny has taught me so much about happiness and unconditional love. He says hello to everyone he encounters. He has such a sweet spirit that is so contagious – you can’t help but want to be like him. While he faces many limitations in his life, as well as rejection from people, he still chooses to love. He simply continues to meet more people wherever he goes and bring a smile to their faces. A smile can make such an impact in someone’s life. There are times in our lives when we feel forsaken and alone. And when there’s a random person, like Ferny, that smiles your way it makes you think: “Wow, I really am not alone, someone noticed me!” I learned that from Ferny, I smile at people now, even if I don’t get a smile in return. But sometimes when people actually smile back and their eyes light up, that feeling is so worth it.
I love to watch Mormon messages. I find so much comfort in listening small messages and stories of our leaders but also members who have faced several problems in their lives. I also pour my heart out in prayer to heavenly father, I cry to him until I fall asleep. It’s okay to cry and be vulnerable and seek his advice. One thing I can say is that while we strive to be selfless and put our family and others first, you have to start with yourself. Make time for yourself, go on a walk, go to a spa, go grab a big fat juicy hamburger, go exercise, go to the temple and talk with God. It is so crucial to worry about yourself in this world, you know yourself better than anyone else. Learn to love and take care of yourself. If you are not happy with yourself, change things! You have the potential to create, to change things, to improve things, to create your happiness.